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The Sex-Sleep Whirlpool

A scientific study recently “discovered” what women have known for centuries: if women get sufficient sleep, they’re more likely to have sex. Say it with me, Ladies: “Well, duh!”

For every one hour of extra sleep the women in the study got, their likelihood of having sex the next day increased by 14%. That might not sound like a lot, but I think my husband would take those odds with a smile.

The more sleep you get, the more sex you might want. The more sex you have, the better you’ll sleep. The better you sleep, the more sex you might want. The more sex you have, the better you’ll sleep. It’s a Sex-Sleep whirlpool and it’s a healthy one to get sucked in to.

whirlpoolGetting enough sleep is a constant struggle for mothers, so how do you get sucked into the whirlpool? Where do you begin: with sex or with sleep?

With either one. It’s a whirlpool: you can step in gingerly, jump in with both feet, or trip and fall in and you’ll start swirling.

If you have trouble getting yourself to bed on time, ask your husband to seduce you an hour before you want to be asleep. (More on that here.) If you have no interest in sex, take a nap (20 minutes on the floor surrounded by Cheerios and Hot Wheels is fine; it doesn’t have to be glamorous) or make the effort to go to bed early for a night or two. Women are more like electric stoves than gas stoves; we need time to heat up. Pampering yourself with sleep and a day or two to mentally warm up can yield wonderful results.

Let’s say sex leaves you wide awake and not sleepy; then sex before bed might not be your best option. Instead, use sex to wake up early. Set an alarm, seduce your husband, re-set the alarm for him because you know he’ll be falling asleep, and get up. Get some exercise, get some breakfast, get a few minutes of quiet sanity, whatever you want. That night you’ll be tired earlier which, if you go to bed earlier, will start your whirlpool of early to bed, early to rise, makes a woman sexy, healthy, and wise.


“In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat— for he grants sleep to those he loves.” Psalm 127:2



The Journal of Sexual Medicine

Sex and Sleep: Start With S

2013 Summer 603With the busyness of the school year upon me, I find myself needing to get back to the basics, and I’m starting with the S in Sex: sleep.

Research shows that people who consistently get a full night’s sleep lose more body fat on a diet than those who don’t. (Fat is what I want to lose! Not my hard-earned muscle.) Science has also confirmed that when we’re tired, we not only eat more, but we crave high calorie foods. We all know the equation Tired = Want Sugar² to be true, but it’s nice when scientists agree with us. The emotional food craving part of our brain actually takes charge and the logical decision making part of our brain takes a back seat.

If you don’t trust the experts, do your own research.  Ready?  Get eight hours of sleep two nights in a row.  Does a salad sound appetizing?  Do you have the energy to make one?  Good.  Okay, now get six hours of sleep two nights in a row.  What are the chances you’ll exercise today?  Are fat and sugar your new best friends?  Bingo.

2013 Summer 600So how do we get more sleep? For many of us, we simply haven’t made sleep a priority. Have you ever noticed how early you go to bed when the power is out or you’re camping? (i.e. When it’s dark, you’re bored.) Screens, be they television, ivision, or webvision, have a way of making us feel more awake than we are or should be. If you turn them off, you will increase your chances of going to bed on time by 200%. That was a scientific study done by yours truly. I aced 9th grade Biology, so you know my results are accurate.

The more I research the affects of sleep on the body, the more convinced I’m becoming that few things are more important for your health. Now, some of you reading this work the night shift, or have newborns, or other situations in life that interrupt your sleep and are beyond your control. I know you’re sleeping the best you can and you have my sympathy and a pillow if you ever stop by to visit. I’m talking to myself and all of the other idiots out there who don’t know how lucky we are that if we choose to, we can be well rested.

2013 Summer 598Ladies, maybe you don’t have the will power to turn off the TV and get yourself into bed at a decent hour. But you have at your disposal one of the most powerful forces in nature: your husband’s desire for intimacy.  Here’s how you tap into that power.  Pick a night (or several nights) of the week and say this: “Husband, I want you to seduce me at nine o’clock tonight.  I will say yes.  I need to be asleep by ten.”  Your husband will remember.  He might be incredulous (after all, it sounds too good to be true) but he will remember.  Nine o’clock rolls around and badda-bing, badda-boom – a good night’s sleep! (And exercise to boot! What a deal!)

Psalm 127:2 says that God “grants sleep to those he loves”.  Sleep is a blessing!  A gift!  Not a necessary evil.


Science stuff pulled from http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/08/06/how-sleep-loss-adds-to-weight-gain/?_php=true&_type=blogs&_r=0